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Consultant for help:We are met by the others described, her husband was my first love. Because plain and less likely to dress up, I have not talked to her boyfriend. Mom and Dad a bit worried, asked a friend introduced me around, holding me to the indifferent attitude, the results actually right on the eye. He really is a very literary ambience people, quiet and tranquil temperament that attracted me.Not long before we got married, their house seemed impatient for him to hurry into a home, single-handedly the house wedding. Our family was very sorry, that did not see what force, so before I gave birth to a child, my parents invited a good nanny early donated money and use the service of our little family. It can be said a few years before marriage has a very comfortable, I can not see each other any disharmony. Except that he is not very keen on the married life, me, and mind after the birth of a child into a baby who does not care how. I say he has been very thoughtful, very homely, it has been at peace.Since the baby to kindergarten, we had free time relative, but I gradually found that he started avoiding me, consciously or unconsciously. Multiply the first overtime, and also more entertaining, then the weekend is always on. Every time I propose to allow parents with a baby, we both went out to see a movie or eating dinner, he basically said, busy with work no time to push. Sometimes I think: This is not an old married couple did not feel it? So, also to create some romantic atmosphere to infect him: send him a birthday message to talk about love, then, doing the hair and dress themselves, well do a few wedding anniversary kind of side dishes, but, all without effect, he was a cold day with me. Needless to say, there is definitely a primary three. I quietly began to watch his movements, his cell phone, his computer, his QQ chat, I have secretly turned out search of evidence and found that he did have a dreaming person, has come to Nanbannanshe's point. I thought that desperate ah, how this can Tandao my head? Was really anxious to question him face to face, rushed to the primary three before pumping her two ears.However, as information increases, my heart began to dread than ever, because of her husband's computer to download a lot of gay paper bag theme of the film and television work, his record also shows that the Internet, the most frequently visited sites are also relevant. And, despite the picture is not very clear, but the QQ chat with her husband the man most certainly not a woman. Have some doubts in my heart faint, do not question his sexual orientation? Although I have seen Ang Lee's "Brokeback Mountain," a special feeling for that also have sympathy and understanding, but the movie, ah, is performed to the ah, but so far away from our lives. Besides, marriage has been so good to me so my husband takes good care of, the feeling is not fake Yeah. However, his recent performance so I can not doubt, those recorded in the QQ chat love in the rain, he never told me, his cold, his alienation, his excuse, but also pound for no apparent reason me.The result was later confirmed to track my guess.If the opponent is a woman, I could still try to fight a fight, lost her husband to back side.To each other is seven feet man, I almost zero chance of winning. Is waiting to one day be a primary three men killed her husband? I do not know how the people around them will look at this thing. Even if he dares to break through the secular bias, I am afraid of being laughed at it! Also, I checked a lot of information, know this situation may occur with the genes. As a father of a sexual orientation different from the ordinary people, that our children will in future also have this problem? Not my life be saved, I'm afraid I will have to bear the greater blow, which is the most terrible. Teacher, you say how can I do? If a showdown with her husband so that he will order the child to restrain myself useful? Or I let him go, then find a normal man composed his normal family in order to facilitate the healthy growth of children?Song Chunping Answer:"Brokeback Mountain" is not just film arts, is a fact of life. Homosexuality is a relatively common and normal thing. Your husband should be in and you get married and to have been gay. May be the urging of his family, and your blind date after the rush to get married. He was able to give an account of his family, but also because parents worry you, just pointed at the needs of both sides, hit it off. Then married life, he was careless with your emotional interaction. So in other respects, he is a good man shown Mo Yang, you should be a way of compensation. However, the share of his inner feelings, that love, hard to break away, but he could not control. On the one hand he wants to chase a moving and beloved, on the one hand there are obstacles to family and society.Imagine, in this double oppression, can be considered his life a torment of the. You also do not blame this on him, not a lot of things beyond the control of his own. So you must first clear understanding of the truth. And then make a decision, generally will not be a big mistake.Gay kind of thing, it is difficult to determine the cause for some reason. Have done many experts to discuss and, if born, says that there is said to form the day after tomorrow.Some experts said: Everyone has the gay, and some serious bias, and some moderate. In general, homosexuality, also have clear, there is love. Is one of the true, real love, true love. Of course does not rule out a "desire" in nature.In fact, you can be honest with your husband, and explain your situation, allowing them to choose. Tarry, damage is your family, including your child's future. In many cases, conflicts between husband and wife deteriorated, because do not want real honest with each other. Now, if you brave face each other in good faith, all things are possible to improve. I believe you also want to have a happy family, a better future, which is in your own hands. There is a saying: choose is more important than the effort. Choose, the more effective. The wrong choice, less effective.You let him go, he will not have any good future, because every indication that his future is immune in any case have the blessing of family and friends encouraged. Lost family members, friends support, encouragement, love, happiness will not have any. 'd You and your child can find one, it is also a possibility of happiness. But everything is unknown.Teacher recommendations, or handle the first stage of things, as far as possible that he has no guilt, no regrets. So there will not be sorry.Gay child in the future will happen, things that are the future. You see my above answer on homosexuality, scientific correct view of the matter. Children and grandchildren are their own luck, you first made it their blessing. Bless you.
（译者；谷歌翻译） （作者；宋春平）
（本文转载自新浪博客；http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_488619720100msrk.html?tj=1）
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